A father will feel sad because his son has grown up, is leaving the nest and moving to where the work is, which could be across the country, but he will not feel abandoned. Neglect is a relative concept, and therefore the consequences of this state of care with children can be quite varied. It’s not just about what happens at home, but what happens in the environment where the children live, the school, the street, ETCA. In short, it’s impossible to make predictions for a child care neglect case because the concept is so complex. We can say that about 85% of children are more or less neglected.
If this is true, it cannot tell us anything about the negligence. Our relationship with our parents can affect each of us in very complex ways, and with unhealthy parenting, the results of that can be quite obvious in some and buried in others. I had wonderful parents, but they got divorced when I was young, and I know that affected me in a lot of ways that I’ve had to deal with. So if your parents were not good parents and you haven’t addressed that in your life, then there may be areas of your life that are suffering because of their mistreatment. A woman has been hailed as a hero.
After details of her amazing work with abandoned children emerged. Lu Jian Yang, now 88 and with kidney failure, found and raised more than 30 abandoned Chinese babies on the streets of Jinhua in the Eastern province of Zhang, where she made a living recycling garbage. She and her late husband, Li Jin, who died 17 years ago, kept four of the children and passed the others on to friends and family to start a new life. Her youngest child, jenkie Lin, now only seven years old, was found in a garbage can by Loo when he was 82 years old. Even though she was already getting old, she couldn’t just ignore the baby and leave him to die in the trash.
He looked so sweet and so needy. I’d take him home with me, she said. I took him back to our house, which is a very small and modest house in the country, and nurse him back to health. He’s now a prosperous, happy and healthy boy. All my older children help take care of Zheng Ki Lin.
He’s very special to us. I named it after the Chinese word that means rare and precious. It all started when she found the first baby, a girl, in 1972, when she was collecting garbage. She was lying among the garbage on the street, abandoned. She would have died if she hadn’t been rescued and taken in.
Seeing her grow up and get stronger gave us so much happiness, and I realized that I had a real love for taking care of children. I realized that if we were strong enough to collect garbage, how could we not recycle something as important as human lives? She explained. These children need love and care. They’re all precious human lives.
I don’t understand how people can leave such a vulnerable baby on the streets. Lou, who has a biological daughter, Zhang Kaigin, and is now 49 years old, has dedicated her life to caring for abandoned babies. Now word of her kind gestures is spread in China, where thousands of babies are abandoned on the streets by their poverty stricken parents. One fan complained she’s shaming governments, schools and people who stand by and do nothing. There is no money in power, but she saved the children from death or worse in the local community.
She’s well known and respected for her work with abandoned babies. She does the best she can. She’s a local hero. But sadly, there are too many abandoned babies in China who have no hope of survival. Only last week there was news of a baby who was lucky to be alive after his neck was slit and then put in a plastic bag and thrown into a garbage can in the city of Anxiean in China province, Lou Nang in northeast China.
The baby, a girl, was thought to be a victim of the country’s one child policy, in which parents restricted from having only one child, prefer boys and girls, to be unwanted and often discarded. Infanticide of guilty children remains a problem in rural areas, but is rare in cities where children are often abandoned but not killed. The baby’s fate is horrified in China. The boy was seen when a passerby went to throw some rubbish in the bin and saw what he thought was a dead baby in a bag. He told police that the baby was purple and that she had not moved until he examined the bag more closely.
A resident who witnessed the girl’s transfer to hospital said she was still breathing and her heart was beating. The blood from the wounds stained the entire body. Doctors said that if the baby had been left in the bag for a few more minutes, she would have died of suffocation and had already been affected by lack of oxygen, hence the purple color. They said the baby was born premature and probably between 32 and 34 weeks old and weighed just 1.4 kg. The doctor said that if the cut had been just a millimeter deeper inside the baby, it would have died.
Most children are not neglected, even if their parents ignore or forget about them. Most parents are remiss in the innocent way that parents aren’t taught good parenting skills or don’t have the resources to do what they want as a parent. If children survive infancy to become adults, their life likely involve minimal, if any, neglect. Even if we’re able to distinguish what our parents did wrong, as we can all can, neglect is not. It happens very often in the Western world because we just have too much.
To me, neglect is not having a safe place to sleep, going hungry and not receiving medical support or education, formal or otherwise, for a child or adult, having a safe and supervised environment for young children in which to grow and live every day is also essential for human growth and development, which can be lost in a world neglected.
For children, the good woman pays her own favor. Having a child is a blessing and a great commitment, which one should only undertake when they’re mentally, emotionally and financially ready. Children are a blessing of nature and biology. If a woman and her partner, if she’s present, chooses to have an abortion for any reason, that’s her right and her choice.
If they choose to give up the child for adoption, it’s again their choice. If they never want to have children, their choice. That’s why a couple should carefully consider the pros and cons of having a baby. And if the cons or too many, then they should use the many tools available to prevent pregnancy until the time is right. The recent move to give civil servants a day off to volunteer for charities is taking Singapore one step closer to a selfless society.
After all, the civil service has 820 employees, and charity leaders are hopeful that the extra day off, on top of their annual leave could make a long term impact. That said, raising a child can be a bridge too far from any being able to accept a stranger into the family is not the same as volunteering at, say, a children’s home. A foster parent must not only provide shelter, but also emotional support, care and, most importantly, love.
The foster scheme in Singapore has had more than 50 children cared for since its inception in 1056. According to the Ministry of Social and Family Development, there are 330 children in the program and more than 280 adoptive parents.
With plans to double its foster capacity to around 600 children in the next five years. More foster parents are needed. Here are some adoptive parent stories that will hopefully inspire some to take the first step. Despite having ten children, Isaiah Mohamed Salah’s parents still took in the children of her neighbor, whose parents had financial problems and send them to school a generation later. The shock of her parents actions clearly rubbed off on her.
She, along with her husband, Ashraf Ko, she fostered a total of six children over the age of eleven, including a boy with down syndrome who has been with them since the beginning. The couple have three daughters of their own, and for them, raising children is a serious commitment that must be fulfilled. There’s no going back. I don’t want to take the kid and send him back if I don’t like him. These kids aren’t packages that you take if he wants to and return if he doesn’t want to, said Isaiah.
You could have done what Tan Thang Haut and his wife, Mary Chan, did. For 13 years, they had been caring for a child with congenital disorders. The then two month old boy was taken in by the couple despite the fact that he was unable to see, walk or speak. Certainly, raising a boy with numerous disorders was difficult as he had medical appointments and required 24 hours care. Add Additionally, skeptical family members and the job just got more daunting.
Not that the Tans were ever close to giving up their own. Two daughters came to accept the boy as one of their own as he went from abandoned baby to loving child. Unfortunately, the boy was diagnosed with neuromuscular scoliosis last year and passed away in April of this year aged 13. When asked if they could take their children back, Chan said they’d need time to grieve. I’ll wait until my heart is OK and it doesn’t hurt anymore.
If taking care of eight kids isn’t challenging enough, Add 42 foster kids to the mix and you’ve got a perennial migraine. But before you say cool story, bro, we’re sad to burst your bubble because it’s a true story, bro. Despite having eight children, Thoriving Adam Sambu Gulai has taken in 42 children over the age of 40. The 76 year old woman of Chinese descent was adopted by an Indian family when she was a child and she was lucky enough to become an adoptive mother when she accompanied a friend to the social welfare Department. The rest is history.
She told the Straits Times in Tamil, I was born Chinese, but I myself was adopted by a neighboring Indian family so I wanted to share my love with all these children. However, she is not one of the ones who has taken care of the most foster children. That honor goes to adranny Elizabeth Madison, who raised 45 children over 35 years. She was inducted into the Singapore Women’s Hall of Fame last year. God does not allow anyone to suffer except when people choose to be bad and inflict suffering on others.
So God allows nature to punish such bad people for their bad activities. Existence in the material world is arranged in such a way by God that one suffers or enjoys According to one’s activity. Thanks for reading.