She smiled as she blinked away her drowsy eyes. Vasilina is 15 months old. At the time of this writing, she’s awoke from her siesta, and after a single smile she couldn’t stop laughing till the wee hours of the morning laughed in the manner that only really happy children can laugh, the way that only children who know that they are unconditionally loved and feel entirely protected can laugh.
She was a newborn girl from an orphanage who was born without arms, and she was looking for an adoptive family a year ago, and her photo was all over the Internet. They now refer to her as Vesselina Nutsen, and she has a mother, a father, and three brothers.
One of them, who is also adopted, was born without arms or legs and has no way of supporting himself. Although Vaselinea is born without arms, her adoptive mother, Elmira Nuts and is adamant in her belief that God makes no mistakes. When we first brought Vaselinea home, she had a constant smile on her face. It was only after that that she began to throw tantrums, which was actually a good indication. It indicated that the orphanage’s stress was beginning to dissipate because, after all, she was unfamiliar with the concept of being carried up.
Elmira explains, you see, people tend to adopt children who are born without limbs or legs even less frequently than they adopt children who are born with mental or psychological disabilities. For a long time, the court hesitated to rule in favor of the Nuisance because Chris is an American citizen. Eventually, the court agreed.
The court decision in favor of the Nuisance was not certain until just before the deadline because the family was unsure whether Elmira was a Russian citizen. The family lived in Moscow, and the family already had an adopted kid.
Vaseline is currently in high demand among the general public. Her older brother Aidan kisses her past her on the back of the head and keeps an eye on her while she eats dinner. Right now, the older two are away at camp, but she’s generally the center of attention for the youngsters. Amir explains, Vaseline has a weird way of saying Aida over and over again, and she summons him any time he leaves the room. I already know how to act in the presence of an adopted child.
We follow the approach developed by Nancy Thomas, who has a great deal of experience working with adoptive families and has developed a system that works for her. The objective is to offer the child the opportunity to experience the fourth trimester of pregnancy. You wear them in a baby carrier or sling for six to 10 hours a day, depending on their age. When a child is newly born, the mother is with the newborn 24 hours a day for the first six weeks of his or her life. Later on, after the child has developed a strong attachment to his or her mother, the infant will begin to establish a strong attachment to his or her father.
During this period of adjustment, there should be no outside communication, and the number of guests should be kept to a bare minimum at all times. That’s one way in which you can support the infant and becoming more comfortable with you. It’s decided that Vasilina will sit on the mat with her feet naked. She uses her toes to play with her favorite toys. She moves the toys about and even manages to get hold of a few of them.
She enjoys playing with socks, since they’re the most convenient to pick up with her toes. Elmira was born into a Muslim family in the Bass Queren capital of Biscuit. While studying at University, she became acquainted with a British couple who shared their faith with her and introduced her to Christ. As a Muslim, I couldn’t just stroll into an Orthodox Church and worship there. That’s why my British friends were the ones who introduced me to Christ for the first time.
And then, entirely by chance, I was awarded a scholarship to study in the United States. Obviously, I wasn’t the most qualified applicant. There were others who were more qualified. Nonetheless, God knew that I needed it, and that’s how I was able to break away from my environment, go away to study, and gain a deeper understanding of Christ. In the following months, I began to engage in various charitable events, became a volunteer at a cancer clinic, and spoke to Moms about Christ and the Holy Scriptures.
It was difficult talking to them since they were suffering so much, and I was only observing their anguish from a distance, having had no first hand experience of it. But they persisted in their requests, saying, Please talk to us, please. Hearing you speak about Christ is extremely beneficial to us, as we have no other means of hearing these things. Even before they were married, Elmira and Chris made the decision to adopt a child. Dennis, their adopted son, was introduced to them five years ago.
Radic, their own kid, was a little over a year old at the time. At first, the Nuisance were just interested in assisting in search for a family to adopt Dennis. Nevertheless, they soon realized that he was the most likely the child they were looking for. We were well aware that he had minimal prospect of being adopted. He was already seven years old, although he appeared to be just three or four years old at the time of the development, his speech was not developed and he was unable to take care of himself.
When we were in tutorship, they would chastise us for keeping him away from school, and in the meantime, I was responsible for teaching him how to use the bathroom independently. Dennis was immediately fitted for prosthetics, and sports is now his favorite subject at school. According to him, Radic, the Nuisance biological son, who was 18 months and old at the time of the adoption described the experience as difficult.
He started sucking his thumb and ripping his hair out all over the place again, and I have no regrets because I now understand the nature of their connection and how much they care for one another. At first, we weren’t interested in adopting Vaselines.
When we first had three children, we were concerned that we wouldn’t have enough energy or patience to deal with them all. Maybe someone else would take her, so we simply continued staring at her photograph and prayed with all our might that she would come back to us and be safe. Dennis was enthusiastic about the adoption, stating, It doesn’t matter whether she has arms or not. God is always there to assist me. God will not abandon you whether you have arms or not.
Aiden, who was three at the time, also desired a sister. Radic, on the other hand, was not in favor of it. When Dennis is mistreated on the playground or called a monster, which has happened, he defends him and explains to everyone that that’s the way God designed him. Radic, on the other hand, was insisting, Mom, let’s adopt any female as long as she has arms. Yet how much they adored Vasculina.
From the minute we brought her into the house, we weren’t sure if we were going to adopt her. But the moment we laid eyes on her, we knew she was our daughter. The Nuisance live in a large apartment complex. On the walls are encouraging messages from Christian authors and speakers. In the past, we lived in a modest apartment.
Then, when our friends were about to leave, they approached us and offered to sell us their apartment. Because we were conscious of our financial situation. We told them, we surely don’t have enough money. Take it for whatever you can get your hands on, they said emphatically. I couldn’t stop wondering and imagining what we would accomplish with such a massive space.
Now I believe that God foresaw our need for greater space because Vaseline had already moved in with us after only a few months. Vaselinea is still in the process of learning to walk. It’s quite difficult to maintain one’s equilibrium when one does not have arms. As she tries to stand up, she falls over nearly immediately. These days, Vasilina has mastered the ability to stand up and take a few steps on her own.
I keep reminding Dennis that he’s perfectly normal. Everyone else is normal, so I am as well. The physical education lessons is his favorite. He loves to sprint around on his prosthesis. Unfortunately, it’s quite difficult to become accustomed to other people’s reactions.
Every two years, we aim to travel to the United States to see my husband’s parents. People in Russia look at you, cross their arms and flee. It’s easier in the United States because no one stares at you or your child. You can simply go to the playground there. Yes, it does happen pretty frequently.
Mom people aren’t staring at me here, Dennis Exclaimed with delight during his first visit to the United States and while playing on a playground, someone inquired as to why I had not gotten an abortion. Taking a look at cheerful child that’s experiencing some developmental challenges, I couldn’t think of anything to say, so I just walked away.
A walk outside is calling for the nuisance at this time of the day. They dress Vasilina in a jacket and pants as she’s distracted by the fact that she’s managed to pull off her favorite sock. As he does at home, Aiden will dress in his soccer uniform when he leaves the house.
Vasilina is beaming with delight as she sits in her stroller Waving to everyone with her legs and simply beaming with happiness. Her mother places her in the sand pit and she immediately begins to play with the sand with her feet, her body trembling with delight as she does so. Is it some kind of developing methodology that Vaseline is using inquires a woman who’s standing nearby and taking notice of Vaseline’s bare feet? Well, as you can see, she doesn’t have arms, Elmira explains gently. The Newton family is a member of the Moscow Bible Church.
They have support groups for people interested in adopting as well as for those who already have adopted. Amira explains in detail, there are parent support groups where people can share their experiences and many people have already adopted children following in the footsteps of their brothers and sisters in Christ. Often when there’s no father in the family or when a single mother adopts a kid, the men in the Church provide care for the children and the youngsters learn to live as part of a large group of people in the Church. It’s a mystery to me why are children born without limbs or legs? When I hear children Ask this question, I tell them it’s because God sees that you can do whatever you need to do without your arms.
God is a perfect being who never makes a mistake. It should go without saying that having limbs is not the most significant feature about a human being’s physical appearance. To me, the most essential thing that I can leave for my children is for them to understand that God is their father who loves them unconditionally and is constantly at their side. Now, after all these years have gone, the nuisance are a very contented family. Vaselinea now has three brothers who care for her and safeguard her from harm.